A lot of people feel lonely because they think they don’t like other people and they cant make friends. Actually, it’s not true. It’s not because they don’t like you its because every person thinks about himself, EVERYONE is an egoist. If you would listen to other people talking – most word what you would hear would be “I”…I like…I don’t like…I have this…I was studying that…I work that…I have a family…I have a problem… How to get out of loneliness and find friend?
1. Let them talk
When you meet with someone, or when you just have been introduced with someone simply let him/her talk. Ask questions, be interested in them and listen to them. Many people want to talk about themselves and when they find someone who is carefully listening they like more that person. Everyone is thinking about themselves. Do you really care about other people problems – no. Do they care about your problems – no. So why waste your time talking about yourself if they don’t care actually. They want to say about what they are worried about their life. Let them do it, listen carefully, ask questions and be interested with all your body about what they are talking.
2.Appreciate them, be grateful
When you come to work and see your coworkers – why not say a compliment to them. Say – you look awesome today. When you met your friends do the same. Say thank you to them if there is something about what to say thank you, appreciate them when they do something good. Just be grateful. If someone tries to quit smoking and don’t smoke one week – say to him well done, that’s really good for you. You can do it. When someone helps in work to you – say thank you and appreciate him for it. You can change a lot of things if you start a conversation with a positive compliment when you listen carefully to what other people want to say to you. When you don’t interrupt in the middle of the sentence.
3. Smile – how simple it could be, right?
It is easy at could be – just smile to other people. Even when you answer the phone – answer it with a smile. When you meet with people always smile, do everything with a smile and you will see how a lot of people smile you back. When people see that someone is smiling they think “he has everything good in life. I want that too” No one wants to be around people who are in depression or in a depressive mood. Your sadness creates more loneliness and your depressions create more loneliness too. Even it is hard to smile when you feel sad. Wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and say to yourself – I am great women, I am smiling, I will smile today all day. I am awesome. I am just awesome. Sooner or later you will feel like that. When you catch that smile just go out from home and smile to everyone whom you meet that day.
I have been gone threw many things in my life – depression, alcoholism, no friends, no relationships, no relationships with family, loneliness, sadness however this is proved things what works if you want to keep your friends around yourself and if you want that other person like you. Simply it just works. So get out of loneliness just simply making new friends.